Yes, I'm the only child. So?

Scenario 1
ABC: Hey, you have any siblings?
Me: Erm.. No. I'm the only child.
ABC: So lucky.

Scenario 2
ABC: Hey, you have any siblings?
Me: Erm.. No. I'm the only child.
ABC: So Kasian (pitiful).

Scenario 3
ABC: Hey, you have any siblings?
Me: Erm.. No. I'm the only child.
ABC: *Give me a weird look like I just migrated from outerspace* or *Roll eyes, thinking that I'm a useless brat who can't even cook Maggie Mee or do my own laundries*

No matter which senario is it, I'll often interrupt and add in,
"But I'm not spoilt"

But sadly, being the only child.. I'm often labelled as:
- Selfish
- Sophisticated
- Spoilt, and
- Precocious

Nothing good isn't it?

Since young, I often asked my mum why I don't have brothers and sisters like others. I couldn't understand my mum's answer and always ended up getting mad at her for not granting my wish. I had no one to talk to, no one to play with, not even someone to fight with. I'm lonely [Cue Music : Lonely - by Akon] and maybe.. a bit neurotic.


Remember once I showed Bobby my childhood photos.. He flipped thru the pages, laughed with me.. and in the end.. he told me this,
"Why you always looked so gloomy in your pictures?"

My Kindergarten Graduation Photo
Tell me I looked cute

Seriously, I never realised till he said it. I looked back the photos.. Really, I think I got that Mafia look on my face. I can't seems to squeeze out any smile and placed it nice on my face.

My mum often told me I was an introvert when I was a kid. I don't communicate with people, except my folks. I only had one, ONE friend when I was in my kindergarten. I don't share my toys with other people, nor snatched other kid's toys. I ignored people when they talked to me. My mum had troubled asking me to address "Auntie" and "Uncle" whenever I saw them.

Mum: Nong, call Auntie.
Me: *Mouth shut with angry face*
Mum: Nong, you hear me?
Me: *Still ignoring*
Mum: Sorry ah, my daugther ... like that one..

See. I'm so rude cool.

Lucky I was chubby back then... (Okay, I admit.. I'm still chubby NOW!), so those aunties and uncles still find me cute and nice to kacau. Mum says some idiotic auntie ever pinched my chubby cheeks till Oh-Che (blueblack).

My cousin teased me a lot, embarassed me by telling me how kanasaily-cute I was when I was only 3 yrs old.

Me: Eh cuz, how come I don't remember you one? You ever see me when I was little ka?
(Cuz age almost 13yrs older than me)
Cuz: Yeah. I remember you. You ah, always follow your mum up and down, left and right, even go toilet also follow. People talked to you, you never answered.
Me: Wah lao... Why you only remembered that one oh? You should tell me how cute I am mah.

Ask anyone who know me since I was a kid. Bet they'll all say that I'm a weird, quiet kid who follow mother everywhere she goes.

As years passed, I made more friends in school and started to get hang of communicating with people, and gradually I changed. I become more of a chatterbox, but still..only with people I know.

But still, till today itself, whenever I told people that I have no siblings, people looked at me differently thinking that I must be a spoilt-brat or princess at home.

I admit. Being the only child I get more attention and love. But that doesn't mean I don't grow up. I know if I want something, I know I'll have to earn it myself. I do house chores. I'm very good in ironing clothes, albeit I still can't cook like my mum. (But..I'm lazy)

Of course, I have nobody to fight for foods, drinks and toys. I keep everything all to myself. I treasure my toys because I know my mum worked hard to earn the cash. Mum would often tells me that it's lucky that she only has one child, if not, she wouldn't have any idea how to feed the other kid with my father's super low pay. Yeap, I totally agree with it.

I didn't come from a wealthy family. I had part time jobs to lighten my mum's burden in paying my school fees during my high schools. I worked for my "needs", and not "wants" like new clothes or shoes. In some people's eye, I seemed so pitiful but seriously, I think I'm lucky. I treasure what I have and what I'd gone thru had make me a stonger person. Comparing to my classmates who complained about their parents not buying them the latest notebook or mobile phone, I consider them as useless brats whose brain is made out of tau-fu-fah, and always imagine what will happen to them if one day their parents went bankrupt. It does make me feels better sometimes thinking how unfortunate of them to grow up in a greenhouse and don't even know how to take care of themselves. How pity.

After I finish my studies and worked, I worried about life after my folks retired. Like, where are we going to stay? How much I have to earn in order to cover all the hosuehold expenses and so on? I feel insecure without money. Maybe that's the reason why I'm so stingy thrifty. I felt that burden of taking care of my family on my shoulders already and I'm only turning 23. I have no one to share with, I'm alone. (Sometimes I wish I can just married a rich man)

Man, so much about myself.. I hope you're still reading tho.

But anyway, just wanna convey the message that...
Not all only child are spoilt and dependent living live like parasites.
There are some unique and different one.. like me.

Kasian my children who won't be having any aunty and uncle from their mother side, which means less angpaus. And also cousins to play and compete with.

I'm the only child in my family. How about you?
Anyone same as me?