Thursday, August 30, 2007

Blame Game

I read it from FA's blog and today BB posted an identical news about it.

Stefani's vow of modestly came as a result of a charge by the 10,000-member National Union of Malaysian Muslim Students that her revealing outfits and cheeky performances clashed with traditional Islamic values.

The opposition Pan-Malaysian Islamic Party also blamed her for promoting promiscuity and corrupting the nation's youth.

Under Malaysian government rules, a female artist must be covered from her shoulders to her knees. Also prohibited: jumping, shouting or throwing of objects onstage or at the audience. Talent may also not hug or kiss, and their clothes must not carry obscene or drug-related images or messages.

Source taken from here.

Sorry? Come again? They did mentioned "promoting promiscuity and corrupting nation's youth" right?

I do agree that sometimes MVs of those music icons are way too "hot" for the conservative Asians (like me.... I would immediately switched the TV channel if it's showing groping actions/ heavy breathe / cheesy saxaphone music when my mum's sitting beside me. But rather enjoyed it when I'm alone. LOL!) , but don't you think pushing blames like that seems a little too far?

Okay, I admit. I do find the trend of teenagers wearing fishnet stocking + socks + sneakers, center parted long rebonded hair with pink hilghlight stripes and gothic make-up very annoying. No thanks to Avril. But I don't blame Mrs. Whibley for that, I just thought that the teens could have created their own style and not blindly follow whoever they worshiped. (Hmmm.... Could have try dressing up like Guan-Yin Buddha or Jesus Christ next time)

It's so wrong. I mean "The Blame Game".

When I was a teenager I watched MTV and Channel V too. I'd seen skimpily dressed female artists on the TV and my mum would go, "要死。。。 穿到酱好过不要穿。 你敢酱穿出去我就打死你,我跟你讲。”

- which means, "Want to die... (well, what she meant was "Oh My God", just that "want to die" brings more ohmph! ) might as well stay naked than wearing these. I'm going to beat you to death if you dare to wear out like this."

Of course, she didn't really mean it. Erm.. okay, I'm not so sure about the beat-to-death part because I never wear sleeveless until I was like, 17? You mentioned spaghetti stripes and tube top? You must be kidding me. My mum would either go,

"You wear out like that? You think yourself what if later if you bumped into any uncles or aunties from the temple. What will they think about you?"


"The shirt is too tight for you, like wrapping a rice dumpling (包果粽). Looks really ugly."

And it always work! Sigh... Now you guys know why I have such low self-esteem.

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Anyway that's not the point. The point is... I'm still me after watching a female dancer wearing a bikini with only 3 pieces of cloths lap-dancing man. I wouldn't go, "Wow... That looks so cool and I so wanna try!" .

Just like when I saw my friends smoking around me, I'll asked why they smoked and told them it's unhealthy and money-wasting. Of course, there were some really bad one who tried to persuade me in to smoking by asking me to try and I turned it down.

And 9 out of 10 people whom I asked why they smoked answered me with one word, "STRESS!"

Oh cut the crap. What stress? Everyone's stressed out in this world, from a 3 years old to 100 - as long as you stay alive . What love problem, family problem, money problem, what-so-ever problem, hey mister/ miss, you're not the only one facing it.

You said "cool" ? What cool? Air cond lar... Air cond is cool. Ice cubes too.

Let me tell you what I think is cool. Taking control of my own life and not driven by anything is cool. I am cool and I don't need any help from cigarettes or drugs to prove that.

And people should never take the first sip just because of curiosity. Curiosity not only kills the cat, it kills you too. My friends told me that they are aware of the danger that smoking can bring to their lives but they just couldn't help it. And I pity them.

(I think a lot of smokers out there is so going to hate me now)

I just think that it's so wrong to blame people for our own mistakes.

We blamed the weather so making us sick. But we're the main culprit for global warming.

And it is ridiculous for rapists to blame their victims for dressing too sexy when committing crime. Hello, there were hundreds of men out there who saw the very same girl I believe, but only one man had taken action. It's because the rest of them have conscience and knew it's wrong to do so. Why couldn't the rapist thought of that then?

For those paedophile raping cases, are the authorities going to blame Sesame Street, Barney or Powerpuff Girls for airing cute little girls and claimed that they're seducing men and mind-corrupting?

Parents blamed teachers for not teaching their children well when they themselves are setting a bad role models.

Workers blamed bad traffic for being late for work instead of waking up earlier to get ready.

Couples blamed the other party for their break-up or divorce.

Irresponsible parents blamed their spouses for the mistakes their children made.

Reckless drivers blamed road or weather condition for road accidents.

(I can go on and on but there's just too many sensitive issues that I really shouldn't be blogging about)

Just want to remind everyone, including me...

All the path that we're going through now derived from the decisions we made. If anything goes wrong, the only person to blame is us ourselves.


Tasha said...

That's one interesting post. I don't agree that she promotes promiscuity and corrupting the nation's youth. If ones want to have a sexual behaviour, it's their own fault and you're not only exposed to the way people dress but also peers, internet (porn) etc.

Really dumb! And I'm glad that she faced it modestly. She grew up with that kind of culture people here don't see there is anything wrong!

Oh as for smokers you don't have to care about them.. its yourself that you must care about because it killed second hand smoker!! If they don't care enough of themselves, they certainly not going to care about you. :)

Jewelle Tan said...

Agree with you.

Sha said...

It's always easy for parents to blame others for the trouble that their own children get into. But for me, I think that as long as you have equipped your child with the knowledege of whats right and whats wrong, you don't have to curb him or her from seeing or watching anything.

I don't club, drink or smoke. But if you spark off a convo abt these topics, because I read abt them. I expose myself to these things, with the knowledge that it's okay to know things.

Anonymous said...

Its just to show you how stupid or dumb that they would ever think such act would really be the blame of the nations youth. Everyone loves to point fingers and refuse to take responsible. Worse of all, these people are the one who is governing our nation Malaysia now.

When it comes to serious matter regarding the spending of the government fund or political issues, they have been very quiet. It seems they rather try to avoid serious issues than actually solve things.

Nonnie King said...

Tasha : Ya laaaa.. They thought even without TV and concerts teenagers will just stay at home and not do anything "stupid"?

Jewelle : Thanks!

Sha : Exactly. Even if we know all these doesn't mean we'll do the same kan.

Anonymous : So... you must be a Malaysian.

Anonymous said...

Hi Nonnie, my last post didn't seem to work so here goes again..
It’s so amusing to read the bit on your mom’s lecture in Brunei mandarin (汶來的華語).
This type of mandarin is uniquely spoken only by Brunei Chinese, especially those from KB & Seria. I always recognize this peculiar syntax & accent no matter where; whether in Perth or Edmonton, I would know the speaker is from Brunei.
Sorry for getting away from the subject..

Anonymous said...

Sorry for not signing off.
Distant Hermit

Anonymous said...

funnie blogg wtg keep it up :) ttab

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