Blame Game

I read it from FA's blog and today BB posted an identical news about it.

Stefani's vow of modestly came as a result of a charge by the 10,000-member National Union of Malaysian Muslim Students that her revealing outfits and cheeky performances clashed with traditional Islamic values.

The opposition Pan-Malaysian Islamic Party also blamed her for promoting promiscuity and corrupting the nation's youth.

Under Malaysian government rules, a female artist must be covered from her shoulders to her knees. Also prohibited: jumping, shouting or throwing of objects onstage or at the audience. Talent may also not hug or kiss, and their clothes must not carry obscene or drug-related images or messages.

Source taken from here.

Sorry? Come again? They did mentioned "promoting promiscuity and corrupting nation's youth" right?

I do agree that sometimes MVs of those music icons are way too "hot" for the conservative Asians (like me.... I would immediately switched the TV channel if it's showing groping actions/ heavy breathe / cheesy saxaphone music when my mum's sitting beside me. But rather enjoyed it when I'm alone. LOL!) , but don't you think pushing blames like that seems a little too far?

Okay, I admit. I do find the trend of teenagers wearing fishnet stocking + socks + sneakers, center parted long rebonded hair with pink hilghlight stripes and gothic make-up very annoying. No thanks to Avril. But I don't blame Mrs. Whibley for that, I just thought that the teens could have created their own style and not blindly follow whoever they worshiped. (Hmmm.... Could have try dressing up like Guan-Yin Buddha or Jesus Christ next time)

It's so wrong. I mean "The Blame Game".

When I was a teenager I watched MTV and Channel V too. I'd seen skimpily dressed female artists on the TV and my mum would go, "要死。。。 穿到酱好过不要穿。 你敢酱穿出去我就打死你,我跟你讲。”

- which means, "Want to die... (well, what she meant was "Oh My God", just that "want to die" brings more ohmph! ) might as well stay naked than wearing these. I'm going to beat you to death if you dare to wear out like this."

Of course, she didn't really mean it. Erm.. okay, I'm not so sure about the beat-to-death part because I never wear sleeveless until I was like, 17? You mentioned spaghetti stripes and tube top? You must be kidding me. My mum would either go,

"You wear out like that? You think yourself what if later if you bumped into any uncles or aunties from the temple. What will they think about you?"

or,

"The shirt is too tight for you, like wrapping a rice dumpling (包果粽). Looks really ugly."

And it always work! Sigh... Now you guys know why I have such low self-esteem.

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Anyway that's not the point. The point is... I'm still me after watching a female dancer wearing a bikini with only 3 pieces of cloths lap-dancing man. I wouldn't go, "Wow... That looks so cool and I so wanna try!" .

Just like when I saw my friends smoking around me, I'll asked why they smoked and told them it's unhealthy and money-wasting. Of course, there were some really bad one who tried to persuade me in to smoking by asking me to try and I turned it down.

And 9 out of 10 people whom I asked why they smoked answered me with one word, "STRESS!"

Oh cut the crap. What stress? Everyone's stressed out in this world, from a 3 years old to 100 - as long as you stay alive . What love problem, family problem, money problem, what-so-ever problem, hey mister/ miss, you're not the only one facing it.

You said "cool" ? What cool? Air cond lar... Air cond is cool. Ice cubes too.

Let me tell you what I think is cool. Taking control of my own life and not driven by anything is cool. I am cool and I don't need any help from cigarettes or drugs to prove that.

And people should never take the first sip just because of curiosity. Curiosity not only kills the cat, it kills you too. My friends told me that they are aware of the danger that smoking can bring to their lives but they just couldn't help it. And I pity them.

(I think a lot of smokers out there is so going to hate me now)

I just think that it's so wrong to blame people for our own mistakes.

We blamed the weather so making us sick. But we're the main culprit for global warming.

And it is ridiculous for rapists to blame their victims for dressing too sexy when committing crime. Hello, there were hundreds of men out there who saw the very same girl I believe, but only one man had taken action. It's because the rest of them have conscience and knew it's wrong to do so. Why couldn't the rapist thought of that then?

For those paedophile raping cases, are the authorities going to blame Sesame Street, Barney or Powerpuff Girls for airing cute little girls and claimed that they're seducing men and mind-corrupting?

Parents blamed teachers for not teaching their children well when they themselves are setting a bad role models.

Workers blamed bad traffic for being late for work instead of waking up earlier to get ready.

Couples blamed the other party for their break-up or divorce.

Irresponsible parents blamed their spouses for the mistakes their children made.

Reckless drivers blamed road or weather condition for road accidents.

(I can go on and on but there's just too many sensitive issues that I really shouldn't be blogging about)

Just want to remind everyone, including me...

All the path that we're going through now derived from the decisions we made. If anything goes wrong, the only person to blame is us ourselves.