Having tons of friends who got married last year only lead to a brand new season of drama to follow up, and this time, the title is “Pregnancy”.
Some of them were just married 3, 4 months ago and they’d been bombarded with questions like … “Belum berisi?”
Honestly, I don’t quite understand why some people loves rushing others into the “next stage” when it’s not quite…. you know… their business.
So what if your so-and-so is so damn fertile and gets pregnant few months after their wedding. Does it really matter?
In my opinion, what matters most is the upbringing of the child. No?
So what if I get married when I’m just 23, then become a mother at the age of 24, and later my child turns out to be a hooligan / unemployed parasite who always ask money from me when I’m 60 years old? Is that what you still label it as an “achievement”?
My mum got married at the age of 28 and gave birth to me when she’s 30.. which is considered pretty old in the 70s. I remember when I was young, some annoying aunties actually teased her and showed-off that their kids were already in the secondary when I was still in primary.
…… what the heck.
And look what happens now.
The so-called “achievements” of those aunties turned out to be.. less worthy to brag now.
You see what I mean?
Really kasian you know when I heard my friends telling me how her “relatives” pressured and made sarcastic remarks on her still-flat-no-bump-tummy. Haiyah, all that these kaypo (busybody) people want is to have another topic/story to gossip only.
Kasian lah the victims. Bo-tai-bo-chi kana said.
Thank God so far *touchwood* none of our parents are rushing us to get married. Honestly, if possible.. a big IF lah, I would like to have a baby first. Hehehehe. But of course, this is totally unacceptable in this conservative place and it’s super wrong and sinful to most people. I mean, if I wanna get married now, one big reason behind it is because.. I wanna be a mummy before 30, while my “engine” still boleh pakai.
And when I told my mum my crazy idea, she went all hysterical claiming, “YOU WANT THE WHOLE KB / BRUNEI TO TALK ABOUT YOU IS IT?! I DON’T WANT TO HEAR ANYTHING NEGATIVE ABOUT YOU FROM OTHER PEOPLE’S MOUTH OKAY! HAIYAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!”
Okay okay, I get it mum.
For now, I’m 25… coming 26… and happily enjoying my single-life.
Wedding and baby, can still wait lah… I think?
Say want then got meh? You think make kuih ah?
This kind of thing cannot rush one mah.
Don’t “Emperor not in a hurry, eunuch panic”.